I saw this yesterday….
“So yesterday I met this girl who was so bitter &full of complaints over not having a Val on Valentine’s Day. I looked@her &said, You don’t have a Valentine on Valentine’s Day, so what? Some people don’t have a mother on Mother’s Day, a father on Father’s Day, or their siblings on Christmas. They didn’t cry to the world over it. Get a life &stop fussing over a man when you are a complete entity on your own.That wasn’t a bad answer was it? LOL”
I also saw Femmetotale’s comment on her blog for me to do a post on how my valentine celebration went and voila! I had an idea on how the post should go…
Dear answerer to the above question, I love your no-nonsense answer but I think your answer wasn’t detailed enough. It should have gone like this…
I know an amazing lady, her name Is Frances Okoro, a single lady such as yourself with no ‘Val’ so to speak of.
On Friday February 14th, her valentine gift from her school was an impromptu test, a kind of mock bar exam. You see, she’s a legal practitioner in the making currently in law school.
She had an awesome time with multiple course meals, small chops, drinks, juice, cake…she’s on a journey to lose weight but lay aside her weight loss goals for now, and it was Valentine ’s Day anyway so bring the cheat day on.
She got priceless advice from pastors as regards relationships and chatted with a great married lady called Aunty Meg who even gave her examples from her own marriage.
And her valentine things didn’t end on Friday o. On Saturday she visited two homes for the less privileged with her fellow law school students, something she had been working on for a while.
She believes the valentine thingy shouldn’t be celebrated only among the husbands/boyfriends but the love should spread to all.
She had an awesome time blessing other lives with the love of God in her, letting her light shine to others other than a val.
On Sunday morning, she had a glorious time in God’s presence in DCC, with PK dishing out the word for both singles and married folks alike. Ah! Twas an awesome time with the word! Storing true words from God in her in preparation for the great marital life in the future…
See how wide her smile was? She had fun with her girlfriend, girls night out like no other…
So what’s stopping you from doing the same?
O single lady, stop letting the pressure of Val this and that get to you.
Shebi Valentine things has ended?
But you still live your life bemoaning the fact that the oga hasn’t arrived…
Look inward, there’s a lot you can do to make you a complete and fulfilled woman before he arrives.
Why are you still pinning? Take a cue from Frances, let the love you placed on reserve for only your Val spread to others like the akara seller on your street, the boy with a tray of orange on his head…
Whatever good you show to them will forever speak on your behalf.
Have you discovered your purpose in life?
What about your education? Your career? Your business? Are you putting in the work to make it succeed?
Is your spiritual life where you want it to be?
Why don’t you start working on it right now? God is itching to be your Val just like He is one to Frances.
You know, it’s not hard to be a complete person in yourself without the one o, and the truth is, you actually need to be complete in you before you can complement another.Work towards it with the time you have right now, inculcate good and godly virtues for the future right now.
Singlehood is a phase in life, one which if you don’t make optimal use of, you lose valuable lessons.
Go out, have fun, dress up just because, look good just cause you feel like it-a time will come when the babies won’t let you have enough time for yourself. Let your light shine even without “the man”
Read this post to get more insight on this https://imperfectlyperfect92.wordpress.com/2013/10/23/while-you-wait/
and if you need to, get in touch with Frances and ask her how she does it, here’s her email address, firstname.lastname@example.org.
I’m sure she’ll let you in on the secret. Although, she says there’s no big secret o, just wrap yourself in God and you’ll be a complete, happy, and fulfilled lady in Him and yes, even without a man.
And hiya, here’s Frances herself.
Just one, my mantra for now…
”Let it be known that I was the lady that so squeezed out everything singlehood/life had to offer, singlehood/life itself knew that I owed them nothing, absolutely nothing when I left them behind”
PS: kai! I actually climbed to the rooftop of my hostel , a 4storey building,+ endured a ‘somehow’ conversation from one guy(story is on my twitter timeline, pls, do follow me @Elegant_frances by the way) + mosquitos just to put up this post.. See how much I heart you all? *muah muah*
Have a blessed week.