So my roomate is a very funny girl. She regales us in the room with these crazy stories of her toasters..
For example, there was one guy that said he wanted to marry her and the guy was flashing her like no man’s business. One day, she just picked up her phone to call him, with no laugh on her face and speaking with serious passion, she said – “why are you always flashing me na, is this the way they do relationships? Why? Why?”
I just started laughing uncontrollably when I heard that. Kai!
told her that her not calling him when she said she would means that she is not submissive.
Kai! Men, Lord knows I love you all but some of the stuff some of you do just blow my mind.
You know I met one of you when I was jogging one morning and on the evening of that day the guy was saying that I look good enough to be his wife. For where? Do you know me? Do you know what I am capable of? Some I haven’t even met physically, just because you read my stuff which I am glad blesses you, you think I should be your wife.
I met one who I had not even known for up to three weeks who was asking me to come and spend the night with him. Even if you don’t want to do anything “bad” with me, what kind of decent girl spends the night with one kain man?
I spend plenty of my time attending christian seminars on relationships, reading things on christian homes, listening to christian messages, asking for advise from godly seniors, praying that God should revamp my mind about what relationships and marriage should be like just so I won’t make mistakes. So I won’t say “no more love” when I am in the marriage just because I didn’t understand it all before I jumped in.
I think men should try same too.
Men need to have mentors, not just for business but for marital life also.
Men need to read Ephesians 5:25 and understand what submission means. They need to understand that the man and woman were enjoined by Paul to submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. They need to understand that for the men this means for them to love their wives and for the women it means to respect their husbands.
They need to understand that they shouldn’t quote it out of context.
My roommate’s toaster and his fellow people that think like him need to know that not calling you(when I have not even agreed for you) doesn’t mean that I am not submissive.
Men have to change their mind sets and realize that they should be more like Abraham’s servant in Genesis 24.
Pray before you approach that woman. Just because she seems all that doesn’t mean that she is God’s choice for you. Make sure before you approach her. And let the mind set of “let’s just date, we will know where we are going at the end” not find its place in you.
There’s nothing like that in the Bible, Boaz didn’t string Ruth along, he knew he wanted her and made plans for that. He didn’t ask her to just date him and they will find out later. We ladies maybe young but we are also too old to date aimlessly. Please help us help ourselves.
I love men.
I love good, godly, sensible, hard working, honest (and fit) men.
And I think we need more of them.
As christian single women try to learn about relationships and marriages so we don’t make mistakes, can you guys please try too?
Pretty pretty please?
Let most of those mind sets that won’t help us be revamped. Please dearies?
Remember, my people perish for lack of knowledge. Let our relationships/marriages in the future not perish for lack of knowledge in Jesus name, amen.
Please, get wisdom and in all your getting, get understanding.
Btw, as much as I love the kind of men I outlined up there. Here’s my pm on BBM and another kind of man I love +my prayer to God…
“Shebi Lord you see me working out&trying to keep fit? Please deep calleth unto deep.Let my deep call unto a fit man oh, not one with plenty belly.PLS.”
#Don’t judge me with that pm, it’s a serious prayer point. Lol
Have a merry weekend everyone! =-D