I find myself writing about relationships and marriages mostly on Fridays and I wonder why. Maybe I should turn Fridays to Friday frank relationship talks just like Monday’s inspirational drive yeah? Yes.
And how are you all doing? Week was great too? Thank God.
So I saw Kanayo Dike’s picture on Instagram during the week. She captioned it #purpose meets purpose. I think the guy’s her Bobo. I am not sure though but that’s not what I want to talk about, something else struck me…
Okay before I say it, here’s a disclaimer to Popsi. I know you read my blog oh, don’t start thinking that with all my posts on relationships, the man have come oh, so you and momsi won’t discuss and she will want to have “that conversation” with me.lol. I just like learning a lot about marriage God’s way, that’s all.
So as I was saying, I got thinking when I saw Kanayo’s picture…
God gave Eve to Adam as a help meet and it stands to reason that for someone to be a help meet, there must be something on ground for one to be helped with.
I think marriage is a whole lot more complex than the love we sing about.
Yes, love plays a large role but it’s more than that. When we meet a man/woman, we should be asking them what their purpose in life is..You know that question in Think like a man movie? That’s not just for laughs, it’s for real.
Where does he/her see themselves in 5,10 years from now?
What do they have passion for? What’s their purpose in life?
How can you fit into those plans?
Apart from the rearing kids, marriage is a journey for both parties to fufil their destiny in God and the one you are with should be the right person to move that purpose along, they should be your help meet not just “love meet”.
What’s your purpose in life?
What’s his purpose in life?
Can both purposes align?
Can you help each other?
Do you fit into each other’s purposes in life?
Can purpose meet purpose?
What do you think?
I am beginning to understand more and more the reasons why someone like me cannot marry anyhow.
The reason why great people like you and I with God’s hands on us cannot just jump into relationships just because…
God has a purpose for our lives- a purpose that can be derailed if we marry anyhow.
Your purpose has to meet with a man/woman’s purpose who can help it culminate together in God’s purpose for both of you.
A man with a ministry in Christ cannot just marry a woman who can’t help him along in it. Same with the woman.
You cannot just settle anyhow, you have to settle at the right time, with the right person for God’s right reasons. If we derail, we miss it big time. Remember Samson?
After my last post to men, (see it here- https://imperfectlyperfect92.wordpress.com/2014/05/23/just-for-some-laughs-and-some-serious-ish/ ) there was someone who bashed me real good… He said it’s not by spiritualizing mere relationships.
Well, I write with the aim that most of our mind sets will be changed but sadly, I can’t force anyone to align, I really wish and pray that God touches everyone’s heart but still, everyone is entitled to their opinion.
But for me, relationships are not “mere”. If I want to court, it must be with purpose in mind, I can only be with the one who God says yes to for me. That’s the only way I won’t miss it.
And if we can’t spiritualize relationships, what else can we spiritualize? I mean God created marriages which are the aim of relationships..doesn’t it make sense even in our brains(not spiritually now) to give the product to the manufacturer?
God created marriage, He has the manual for it… The reason why we have too much clashes is because we want to do things with our physical minds.
We may fall short sometimes but really and truly, the only kind of marriage/relationship that really works is through God… That’s the only way things will blossom, we have to go back to God’s manual for relationships.
The only way to be power couples in God is when our purpose meet purpose.
The true power couples are not the ones living in cash and living large according to world standards, but they are those walking in God’s purpose for their lives-fufiling the reason why they were placed on this earth by God.
May we not miss it.
May we not for the sake of “just because” enter into any relationship.
God has His hands set on us, we just can’t do/be with just anyone.
It has to be purpose meet purpose.
Anything outside of that spells trouble. Ie, Samson kind of trouble.
God help us all.
Picture Source- Kanayo Dike Oduah of http://doctorkanayo.com/
And an example of this true power couples am talking about? Check out Heather Lindsey and her hubby’s ministry on the link below, powerful combo I tell you… http://www.heatherllindsey.com/?m=1
TGIF people, enjoy your weekend!